Today I turn 25 years-old. Twenty five feels like a pretty significant milestone though I have no idea what’s to come for me in the next year. A quarter-century under my belt has got to mean I have a lot of wisdom, right? So, for today’s post I thought I’d compile a list of 25 things I’ve gathered about adulthood so far.
Here’s what I’ve learned:
- Not telling your parents everything is perfectly fine. They don’t really need to know about your Super Bowl Sunday rager and the Monday morning office hangover that ensued.
- Speaking of parents, teaching them about GIFs and how to take a proper selfie can be satisfying. And equally embarrassing.
- Skyping your bestie from 800 miles away for even half an hour is worth more than 4 hours of therapy. Yes, thirty minutes is enough time to recap the week’s Facebook engagement round-up and bitch about the office intern-turned-full-time-employee.
- But don’t treat your friends like your therapist.
- It’s okay to indulge in something that brings you happiness. I do a lot of Soul Cycle. Sue me.
- You’re not a jerk for thinking puppies are definitely cuter than babies. I have names at the ready for my first three dogs.
- “It’s not too late now to say sorry.” I learned this recently. It’s never too late to apologize to someone you may have hurt. Some times all anyone really needs to hear is a simple apology.
- Free swag isn’t as cool as it once was in college. Note: swag and novelty items were a majority of the first boxes I sent to Goodwill last month.
- Everyone wants to feel important. I notice this most at work when colleagues are speaking to a larger group. This is a good thing to keep in mind when trying to work with others or even when comforting your own friends.
- Honesty is king. Be straight-forward and stick up for yourself. It’s as simple as that.
- I hate when people talk about their personal finances.
- Getting back to reading books can be cathartic. This is also a much welcomed break from looking at a computer screen all day.
- It’s okay to cry. A lot. You know, over acts of compassion, your dying orchids, and owing during tax season.
- And it’s okay to feel too exhausted to cry at all.
- There’s a time and place for everything, especially at work. I learned this the hard way my first few review cycles and from a lot of friends who don’t appreciate stirring the pot.
- Cynicism is funny. But it will get the best of you. I realized this most when I started meeting people who were extremely genuine upfront. Not everyone is an asshole.
- Detachment is the toughest practice. Detachment isn’t necessarily indifference but more like not sweating the small stuff. As someone who still freaks when people do this, I can tell you detachment for me is a work in progress.
- Just kidding, patience is still the hardest.
- No matter their age, adults can still be unsportsmanlike. I assure you adult rec soccer isn’t as tame as it sounds.
- You don’t have to hate your ex’s new girlfriend by principle. It’s even okay to think she’s a cool boss lady.
- As cliché as it sounds, travel makes you think about stuff. And not necessarily the things you thought you would.
- Identifying friendships worth working on can be very rewarding and makes you feel mature. Even if it took you a year to figure it out.
- Everyone’s got an opinion of how you should live your life. Who you should date, what gym you should go to, what you should be eating… Not only does it get old (and quick!) but they are by no means right.
- Your relationships with friends and loved ones are better when you practice self-care. It leaves much more time for fun when you don’t have to worry about someone’s well-being.
- Don’t take yourself too seriously! Life gets a lot more interesting when you stop caring what people think.